Category Archives: Mass Reflections

On Marriage and Parenting

On Marriage and Parenting
by Danny Tariman

“I have become its servant by the commission God gave me to present to you the word of God in its fullness.” (Colossians 1:25)

We were meeting in the Vicariate Commission on the Family when a parish leader asked me, “Can we invite you to give a talk in our Festival of Families?” I was pleasantly surprised with the opportunity to share the Word of God.

I prayed that the Lord would speak through me in my talk. I prepared a good deal: pondered on Bible verses on marriage and parenting, and read Amoris Laetitia by Pope Francis. I lifted up prayers for a Spirit-filled sharing of the Word of God.

On the appointed day, my wife and I drove to the parish. When we were ushered into the church, I was beaming with happiness deep inside of me because the attendance was excellent: a complete mix of fathers, mothers, and children. This is exactly the audience that my talk was focused on!

As I delivered the Word of God on marriage and parenting, the audience listened attentively, even reading with me the biblical verses flashed on screen. After the talk, the attendees were asked to reflect. I was glad to hear that the Word sank deep into their hearts. I praised the Lord for allowing me to present His Word in its fullness!

Reflection:
“Do not worry beforehand about what to say. Just say whatever is given you at the time, for it is not you speaking, but the Holy Spirit.” (Mark 13:11)

Prayer:
Dear Lord, continue to use me as Your mouthpiece of love. Amen.

[This reflection was first published in Didache — both hardcopy and online — on July 21, 2019]

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Excellence!

Excellence!
by Danny Tariman

“Whatever you do, do everything for the glory of God.” (1Cor 10:31)

It was one of the most poignant witnessing for the Lord: offering at the altar simple acts of service done in excellence.

The family was asked to be the Mass offerors for a coming Sunday. They were so happy to have been called to offer in the Mass, although they were very new in the parish.

They prepared a basket with various kinds of bread, arranged beautifully in a rattan-woven basket. In another native basket were fruits of different variety, carefully placed and garnished.

When they walked to the altar, the kids held the baskets in “offering” posture, walked in cadence with the parents who carried the usual chalice and wine. Truly excellence was present!

In another event, this family was called to change the altar cloth during Easter Vigil Mass.

Days before the Easter, they rehearsed changing a table cloth using their dining table. They made sure that they will perfectly place the cloth in 5 seconds flat. They tried several times until they made it really good.

In the morning of Saturday, while the mother made sure their best clothes to be worn are well-pressed, the father cleaned and shined their shoes. They left nothing unprepared for the service.

At the Easter Vigil Mass, the execution of the changing of altar cloth was so perfect.

Simple services. Done in excellence. Made for the glory of God!

Reflection: Are you giving your best to the Lord, even for simple tasks?

Prayer: Grant me O Lord the grace to do everything in the best way possible, all for your glory. Amen!

Leaving and Coming

Leaving and Coming
by Danny Tariman

“I am going away, but I am coming back to you.” (John 14:28)

I remember the day when I left my family for an overseas job. Although we all agreed that I would take this job and that there would be no tears, we couldn’t stop ourselves from crying when I was about to leave. We knew that this overseas job would bring tremendous blessings to the family, yet the agony of missing each other for a few years set in.

I cannot thank the Lord enough for His blessings for us while I worked abroad. My children graduated college from the best universities. We were able to purchase a good-sized house in a peaceful community in the city. We have cars. And the biggest blessing was the opportunity to share God’s Word in a foreign land and to become an instrument to bring about change in peoples’ lives. But I’m happy to say that those years are over and now I’m back with my family.

That experience has helped me understand today’s Gospel better. I’m sure the Apostles were saddened to hear Jesus telling them He would leave them, but He also would be leaving them with His peace and reassurance so they would not be troubled. Jesus’ departure is a cause for joy because He is going to the Father, the source of all blessings and graces.

Reflection: It’s always difficult to part with someone or something you love. But trusting that the Lord has better plans for us gives us peace. Are you ready to let go?

Prayer: Dear Lord, I may not know exactly what is Your plan for me, but I put my trust in You.

[This reflection was first published May 21, 2019 in Didache, in Gabay (Tagalog texts), and in Kerygma Family webpage]

Our God of Order

Our God of Order
by Danny Tariman

“And so your faith and hope are in God.” (1 Peter 1:21)

“We’re sorry, your 5:30 a.m. flight for Iloilo this Saturday is canceled,” said the airline representative. I received the disturbing call just three days before our family trip.

With all the details of our family vacation already prepared, we couldn’t easily accept a delayed flight. Our hotel booking was confirmed, our itinerary organized, and our schedules finalized.

I asked that we get the next available flight. I was assured we would. But after an hour, I checked our flight details and learned that we weren’t rebooked yet. Worse, the next flight we could get was past noon, which would affect our tour itinerary and schedule. I was distressed and asked my family to pray.

Finally, I asked the airline that our destination be changed from Iloilo to Bacolod for the 5:30 a.m. flight that Saturday. We were approved with no charge.

God is so good! In putting our faith and hope in Him, we were able to fly to Bacolod direct, which was actually the first destination in our itinerary. It saved us from making a boat transfer had we landed in Iloilo first.

Indeed, “we know that all things work for good for those who love God” (Romans 8:28).

Reflection: Are your plans being disturbed? Trust God. Keep the faith.

Prayer: Strengthen my faith, O Lord, that even when everything seems to go wrong, I may continue to have hope and trust in You. Amen.

[This reflection was first published in Didache 2018 — May 30th]

God is Faithful

God is Faithful
by Danny Tariman

“Heaven and earth will pass away, but my words will not pass away” (Mark 13:31)

Early in my “renewed life” I was taught that the Bible is a Word from God. I believe it. I believe that it has promises that are certain to pass or manifest.

This has been my life. To trust the LORD and to trust in His Word.

One of my dearly-held promise is from Mark 11:24

“Therefore I tell you, all that you ask for in prayer, believe that you will receive it and it shall be yours”

I believe this promise. I believe His Word in Mark 13:31 that His “words will not pass away”

Strengthened by these two promises, I prayed, and I claimed, that the LORD will grant me a job despite my age.

One day, I got a message from a friend whom I have not spoken for many, many months. He asked if I will be interested in a job to head an IT Department of a company. I said, “I am”. And so, he gave me a
contact number.

I dialed the number and I was immediately scheduled for a face-to-face interview with the company head.

The interview went well. But I haven’t received any update for the next 2 weeks, which made me wonder.

While my family & I were having our vacation in the province, I received a call from an unknown number, which happened to be the HR Manager of the company where I had an interview a couple of weeks ago. And lo and behold! It was a job offer!

We went back to Manila, excited that I will be starting a new job.

Indeed, the LORD is faithful; what He promises, He fulfills.

Reflection: Do you believe in the Word of God? Do you believe that His promises will come to pass?

Prayer: Lord Jesus, grant me that faith to move mountains. Let the prayers of my heart come to pass in Your time. Amen.

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God Provides

God Provides
by Danny Tariman
“He said to [his] disciples, ‘Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life and what you will eat… For life is more than food'” (Luke 12:22a, 23a)

My wife had a 2-day holiday with friends in an exclusive resort. Because we want her to just enjoy her moments, we told her not to bother preparing our food packs, which she usually does every day.

She left home early in the morning. My family had a quick breakfast without her and drove-off for our day in the office.

I did not have the usual food pack that I bring for the day.

To my surprise, a few minutes upon my arrival at the office, two of my staff gave me something I really do not expect: one gave me a cup of bean jelly/curd (taho, in Tagalog), and another gave me an apple! I have now food for my snacks!

Just before twelve noon, as I was about to go to the canteen, my staff told me that a member of my office team will be bringing in food for our lunch. Another surprise!

I was so touched at how the LORD provides. As I had asked my wife not to prepare food so she can enjoy her day with friends, the LORD touched somebody else — these three guys — to give me food!

Truly amazing! His Word is indeed real: “God will provide” (Genesis 22:8)

Reflection: Do you worry about your provisions? Trust the LORD; He provides!

Prayer: Am sorry LORD for the times that I have not fully trusted in You by worrying. Grant me the grace to live a life fully trusting in You! Amen.

Dinner Time

Dinner Time
by Danny Tariman

“When you come together to eat, wait for one another.” (1Cor 11:33)

Dinner time is one of those moments I wait for. Each day.

This is the time when my family shares our daily experiences, the achievements we had for the day, the challenges we encountered at work, the joyful moments we had, and even problems we encountered during the day.

It is also a time for us to talk about our dreams, our wishes, and even a time to plan family events.

It is indeed good! We laugh together, we share ideas, we ask questions, and many more. It is a delightful family time.

There is one rule, though, that we observe during dinner time: no mobile phones on the table. This enables us to really have moments for each other — with no distractions.

Today’s verse reminds us to be together, to have moments for each other during mealtime.

Reflection: Do you wait for each other at the family’s table during mealtime?

Prayers: Dear Lord, grant that my family will have wonderful moments during meal time. May these be moments of sharing Your love and joy. Amen!